Have any of you read a good book, article or just have some good advice? I really want to take care of this before this becomes a more serious problem- as this child gets older. I am pretty sure my expectations aren't too high, because the other children listen and obey just fine. Please help. Any ideas would be great. Aaron was out of town again today and after a whole day of asking this child over and over and over, the same exact things, I am out of ideas... and patience.
Monday, December 15, 2008
A Listening Ear.. or not
I have a child whom I love dearly, but who is not a very good listener. This child is smart and capable, but chooses not to listen. I know that he/she hears me, but makes a choice to ignore my request and do something else. I need some help. I am very frustrated and need a solution. I have tried talking sweetly, yelling, punishing, setting the timer, reward charts, blah, blah, blah,- the list goes on and on.
Have any of you read a good book, article or just have some good advice? I really want to take care of this before this becomes a more serious problem- as this child gets older. I am pretty sure my expectations aren't too high, because the other children listen and obey just fine. Please help. Any ideas would be great. Aaron was out of town again today and after a whole day of asking this child over and over and over, the same exact things, I am out of ideas... and patience.
Have any of you read a good book, article or just have some good advice? I really want to take care of this before this becomes a more serious problem- as this child gets older. I am pretty sure my expectations aren't too high, because the other children listen and obey just fine. Please help. Any ideas would be great. Aaron was out of town again today and after a whole day of asking this child over and over and over, the same exact things, I am out of ideas... and patience.
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I so feel your pain and wish that I could offer something that works! My son is the same way.. nothing you say/ do to him works. I have decided that I just have to be the "un-fun" mom for awhile because I am not going to let him call all the shots. Hang in there! We are right there with you!
I definately know how you feel. I can't tell you how many times lately that I have threatened or actually "called" Santa to let him know their naughty or nice status! I swear being a mom is the ultimate lesson in learning patience. One thing I have learned working with Dallin is that there isn't always an easy or fast fix, but consistency and follow through always work even if it takes months of patience and endurance. Let me know what you come up with, I could use some fresh ideas.
Oh Danielle! For me the best thing that has worked (it is still a work in progress) is a routine so that my son knows what to do without me asking him. For example, I set his clothes out for him at night at the end of his bed and he knows now to immediately get dressed before he comes out of his room. I don't have to ask him 10 times to get dressed anymore. Also, don't forget to pray for guidance. Each child is so different and Heavenly Father knows your sweet little one personally. He can give you the best answers on how to handle your little one. The answers will come if you seek them.
when I can't get through to my children about something...I GIVE IT BACK TO THEM. Maybe if you ignored HIM for awhile he'd get it!
And that is why Allison has 4 (albeit, and have heard) amazing children. I wish I would have thought of that! I am defin trying that one out!
So, so hard. We still struggle with "selective hearing" in a certain almost 5 year old.
I agree, prayer and patience and age - just getting older seems to help.
I also like the book, 1..2..3.. magic. It has worked for me for a long time and I rarely even get to 2.
Hang in there - you are an awesome Mom Danielle!
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